Can you imagine what your relationship would be like if you could stop Being so sensitive Getting mad so quickly Feeling left out Telling little white lies Flirting to get attention Giving him the silent treatment Ignoring her opinion Getting your feelings hurt Are you plagued by any of these or other similar annoying behavior? Youre about to give your loved one a great gift! Yup, youre going to stop doing what drives you and your partner crazy. How? By following these ~ 4 Simple Steps to STOP Doing Most Anything Step 1 - New Behavior First of all you need to decide what you want to replace your unwanted behavior with. If you only think about what you dont want to do, your behavior cannot change. You must carefully consider what you want to do. Step 2 - STOP Sign The next time you find yourself starting into your unwanted behavior do this. Imagine a huge STOP sign popping up in front of you. Literally stop whatever you are doing and replace it with the New Behavior. Step 3 - Rehearse In the privacy of your home mentally rehearse or physically act out your New Behavior [what youre going to do and say] in multiple situations you find you kick into your unwanted behavior. Do this more than once. Do it every time you slip back into the old behavior. Step 4 - Secret Signal Get your partner involved. Between the two of you decide on a secret signal, a signal that she/he will give you when she/he sees you getting into your unwanted behavior. That's it, real simple yet very effective. This will be a great help to you and will do another very important thing, by involving your partner it shows her/him how serious you are about changing. Follow each of these steps carefully and review them from time to time. Dont expect perfection the first time youre out there, but keep working at it. Remember, it probably took you a long time to develop your unwanted behavior it will take some time to apply and live your New Behavior. Good luck and God bless. |
