It happens to everyone. There she is. Sitting with her friends. Making eye contact with you all night long. The two of you have had a two hour silent conversation with your eyes. All this time, you try and build up the courage to walk over and introduce yourself.

Her interest is so blatant that your friends threaten to disown you if you don't approach her. They even give you "the Ultimate pick-up line" to use on her.

Armed with this. You stand. Calmly walk over to her. Perfectly deliver your opening line.

She smiles.

And then it happens...

Your mind goes blank. You don't know what to say. In fact, you start to question whether English is even your native language. You sputter out a couple of questions, things start to get awkward.

Dead silence.

After a few seconds that feel like ten hours of painful silence, she turns to her friends, ignoring you. You return to your friends. Dejected.

This is the reason most men are afraid to approach women: Not because they lack a good pick-up line, or are too chicken. It is because they do not know what to say - AFTER THE PICK-UP LINE.

Fear of silence.

The number one reason men fear approaching women is they don't know how to start a conversation. But I am going to teach you a single, simple three-step technique, that you can use immediately.

How do you start a conversation with a woman?

Use the Ask-Answer-Ask technique. It is simple, but it works.

It is simple as you are going to ask very common questions:

1. What do you do for a living?
2. What kind of music do you like?
3. What TV shows/Movies do you like?

That sort of thing.

But, you are going to ask them in a certain way that creates conversation, as follows:

STEP 1. ASK - You ask her a general question.

Example:

You: So what do you do for a living?
She: I'm an accountant.

Now, the mistake most guys would make here is trying to come up with something clever to say about her job, or whether she knows so-and-so who is also an accountant. Something to fill the silence. Don't do that. It looks needy and desperate. Wait. In silence. With no comment. It is her turn to respond. It is your job to wait.

Until she says:

She: So what do you do?

Good! Now she has reciprocated and you can respond. Then, the next step is easy.

STEP 2. ANSWER - You answer your own question.

You: I am a stock broker/fireman/etc.

These first two steps are precursors to a conversation. You both throw out a fact about each other. So in the next step the conversation can begin.

STEP 3. ASK - You ask a related, more specific question.

Now you are on equal footing. You have each asked for information about each other. Now, it is your turn to ask a more detailed question about her.

You: So what do you like best about being an accountant?

Now you are in conversation. And when this subject slows down, and it will, you start the process over with a new question:

STEP 1: ASK

You: So what kind of music do you like?
She: Green Day.

Once again, you do not respond. You do not comment, even if this is your favorite band of all time and you used to be their drummer before they made it big.

STEP 2: ANSWER

She: How about you?
You: Red Hot Chili Peppers.

STEP 3: ASK

You: I saw Green Day last time they were in town and...

Now we're talking.