I am the one I have been looking for. Iyanla Vanzant

We spend so much of our time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching, yearning for that special love. Feeling empty and lost without it. Wanting someone to give us love and fill us up. Unfortunately, thats not usually how life works.

You will draw to you exactly what you create in your life. You will draw to you what you believe you are worthy of. Nothing more, nothing less. In other words, when you believe that you are worthy of love, you will love yourself and then you will draw love to you from other sources.

Lets take this a step at a time. Take a realistic evaluation of yourself. Be honest with yourself about how valuable you believe you are as a person. The way you see yourself and treat yourself is the very way others will see you and treat you. Do you see yourself as valuable, worthy of the gift of love? More importantly, do you treat yourself lovingly and as a valuable being? Its ok to be truthful with yourself, it may not be pretty! Awareness is the first and more powerful step on the path to change!

If you find that you have believed yourself as unworthy of love-then right here and now, I want you to forgive yourself. After all, there were probably things in your childhood or previous years that created that belief for you. It simply isnt true; every being on this planet is worthy of love, after all, love is what we are here for, its what its all about. Say to yourself now; I forgive myself for believing that I was not worthy of love. Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself, look yourself right in the eyes and say it like you mean it. Go on, Ill wait.

That was probably difficult for some of you, but I knew you could do it! Now, I want you to post this affirmation up someplace where you will see it each and every day; I have the courage to believe that I am worthy of love. Read it out loud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice it. Sticky notes are fabulous for affirmations.

Then, take action and make those words real. Begin loving and valuing yourself. It is said that you cannot give away what you do not have. So, if you are not able to love and accept yourself unconditionally, how in the world are you going to love and accept anyone else unconditionally? Much less accept that love in return from them?

Remember, love is not a feeling, it is a choice! Make the choice to love yourself. After all, who deserves it more? The more loving you are to yourself, the more loving you will be able to be to everyone around you. Family and friends will especially benefit from this. Make a choice to come from a place of love for yourself and for everyone who is important in your life.